The Truth About Joyful Monogamy

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Today’s lecture topic is: “The Truth About Joyful Monogamy.”

Before we dive deep into the great secret to a romantic relationship that brings eternal happiness, we need to first take the time and explore some important topics. We need to travel down this path together to build the proper foundation for the most important choice a person makes in life: whom to marry.

So, whether you are single and have not yet married out of fear of making the wrong choice;

Or you are in the early stages of marriage, and you are beginning to recognize the gap between the wedding day and everyday life;

Or, you are a veteran couple facing the question: should we divorce or “keep dragging on” for the sake of the kids?

Or, you are in a relationship that has undergone several years of couples therapy and although you are already emotionally and intellectually aware of all the problems- and even the solutions- you are still stuck and have not experienced any meaningful change.

For all of you, this lecture will reveal the great secret to an eternally happy romantic relationship.

This is a secret that you most likely have not heard about until now, and ultimately, it is quite simple—when viewed through the lens of spiritual consciousness.

The first step in this lecture, on our journey together today, is to understand the meaning of the first word in the title: “Truth.”

Why should this be important to us?

Because we all live in a culture shaped by postmodernism, which strongly opposes the concept of truth—and even more so, the concept of “the Truth” with a capital T.

Therefore, if there is no one eternal truth, why should marriage last forever?

So, let’s take a moment to understand how certain processes—ones we are usually unaware of and may not even know by name—affect us in every area of life, not just in relationships.

While modernism—which began in the 19th century and lasted until the mid-20th century—believed it was possible to discover objective, rational, and universal truth that would lead humanity toward progress, postmodernism promotes skepticism, relativism (everything is relative), and pluralism (a multiplicity of views). In other words, it holds the position that there is no one single truth.

The shift from modernism to postmodernism occurred due to several key reasons:

  1. Disillusionment with grand promises: The 20th century—especially the two World Wars, the Holocaust, atomic bombs, and the Cold War—proved that belief in science, technology, and progress did not lead to a better world.
  2. Critique of authority: Powerful institutions such as the church, the state, and academia began to weaken, amid claims that they primarily served those in power.
  3. The influence of media: Television, and later the internet, created a reality of images where it became difficult to distinguish between what is real and what is fake.
  4. Globalization: The encounter between different cultures revealed that there are many ways to think and to live.

To summarize: if modernism believed that there are answers to the questions of human existence, postmodernism casts doubt on the very questions themselves!

Therefore, most people today who encounter the term “truth” recoil from it, as they sense it carries the scent of outdated idealism.

However, this aversion is only justified when viewing history through the lens of the two earthly, material consciousnesses: the intellectual consciousness and the emotional consciousness. The intellectual consciousness failed in its promise to create/generate progress through one universal rational truth. This disappointment triggered a backlash from the emotional consciousness—resulting in skepticism, mistrust toward the concept of “truth,” and even outright rejection of anyone who speaks in its name.

Yet neither modernism nor the postmodernist backlash took into account spiritual consciousness, which alone has the capacity to grasp the concept of “Truth” as an objective reality that belongs to eternity!

And this is precisely the message of the new world—one that will bring an end to the postmodern era and herald the birth of a new human being, one who is not ruled by intellect and emotions, but is guided by the spirit within.

Those who are spiritually awakened can already sense the first signs of this immense shift in consciousness!

For example: Until now, in neuroscience—and also in many psychological disciplines—the sense of awareness (the consciousness) was regarded as something that necessarily arises from the body and the brain. Today, even science has begun to question this supposed exclusive link between the brain and consciousness.

Therefore, as science takes another step forward from quantum physics, it may indeed discover what people with a developed spiritual consciousness have known for thousands of years: There exists a consciousness that does not originate in the brain, that does not perish at the time of death but is eternal; and the source of its connection to our physical body is the solar plexus: this is the spirit!

Whoever begins to develop this spiritual consciousness will discover that there is one, single Truth!

“The Truth”—as perceived through the lens of the spiritual consciousness—never changes its form.

It cannot be subject to progress or change, because it has been perfect from the very beginning of time and will remain so for all eternity.

For this “Truth” is the Will of God, expressed through His perfect Laws of Creation, upon which the entire cosmos is founded and sustained! (Cosmos, in Greek, means “order.” Indeed, if the cosmos—the universe—were subject to even the smallest change and did not operate according to established, fixed Laws based on one Truth, everything would collapse!)

In the Hebrew language, the word “Emet” (אמת=Truth) itself is considered unique because it consists of the first letter of the Hebrew alphabet (Aleph – א), the middle letter (Mem – מ), and the last letter (Tav – ת), symbolizing the entirety of existence from beginning to end.

This corresponds to the term “Alpha and Omega,” which are the first and last letters of the Greek alphabet: a symbol of beginning and end, representing the perfection of Divine Truth.

To summarize: the concept of Truth has been severely distorted!

It has degenerated from an absolute concept originating from Divinity to a relative one dependent on various, changing human opinions.

And thus, instead of each person striving to align himself with the Truth, various “truths” were created, allowing each and every one to simply choose the truth most convenient for his desires and weaknesses.

How ironic that the biblical phrase “Every man did that which was right in his own eyes” (Judges 17:6 and 21:25)—originally spoken as a harsh prophetic rebuke for people acting according to their own will instead of God’s Laws, which inevitably leads to societal chaos—has now become the proud slogan of postmodernism!

However, the Laws of Creation do not depend on opinions and do not ask people whether they accept them or not; therefore, humanity’s task is not to invent laws, but to recognize the Laws of Creation and build upon their foundation!

If this were done, there would be no conflicts or disputes—not in politics or in any other field—but only mutual enrichment, harmony, and prosperity.

Therefore, unlike the intellect and the emotions—which indeed prefer to live by truths that are convenient to them and continue to insist that “there is no one Truth”—the spirit can simply grasp the Truth.

This is because the Truth immediately revives the spirit, just as water immediately revitalizes the body!

After the introduction, let us return to the subject of our lecture.

If it is the spirit that hears the title “The Truth About Joyful Monogamy,” then it can easily grasp its meaning—because the spirit, in its very essence, is monogamous!

The spirit carefully chooses the one who completes it on the journey of ascent toward the Light—and then it shuts its door, looking indifferently at anyone knocking at its door, trying to woo it.

For a developed spirit, marriage is not just an until-death-do-us-part bond, but a covenant that continues even after death! (In the World of Souls, also called the Ethereal World).

Many times, couples who are fortunate to share a high spiritual connection will even reunite in future incarnations. Their spirits will recognize—”at first sight”—the eternal bond of True Love between them and they will simply continue from the exact place where they last parted on Earth. (Although in most cases, they won’t be able to explain it, as they lack the ability to remember previous lifetimes.)

In contrast, the intellect is not monogamous: there is always someone more successful, more intelligent, more beautiful, younger, or richer…

Emotions are not monogamous either: by nature, emotions are volatile—one day “I love you!” and the next, “I hate you!” (Which is why couples therapists have so much work…)

And the sexual instincts of the body—certainly—are not monogamous!

By the way, most animals are not monogamous for exactly this reason. But anyone trying to learn from dolphins how humans should behave in matters of love and romantic relationships has once again forgotten what truly distinguishes man from beast: the spirit!

However, since in most people the intellect, emotions, and sexual instincts are stronger than the spirit—which simply knows “the Truth about joyful monogamy”—there is no choice but to reveal and explain to them in their own language what are the traps of the Darkness that await anyone seeking love and a real relationship from the wrong consciousness.

In other words, for those who are not yet spiritually alert or mature, and who choose to marry based on the intellect, emotions, or instincts (or a combination of these).

 

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If we look at the rising divorce rates around the world, and at most couples who nonetheless have remained married but do not exactly exude happiness or inspire others, it would seem that monogamy—“mono” (one) and “gamos” (marriage) in ancient Greek—is a thing of the past.

This is evidenced by the abundance of marriage jokes in all languages and cultures (such as the image of two skeletons in a grave, with the woman’s mouth open, captioned: “Even in the grave, they don’t stop fighting”).

For example, Sigmund Freud (1856–1939), the father of modern psychology, saw monogamous marriage as a problematic institution that suppresses the human being’s natural polygamous tendencies and creates psychological tensions—yet he acknowledged it was necessary for the functioning of society.

According to his theory:

  • The Id—the unconscious drive motivated by instinct and immediate desire—is not monogamous.
  • The Superego—the inner moral compass that represents societal and ethical values—is monogamous.
  • The Ego—the rational part that mediates between the Id and reality—ultimately submits to monogamy because society requires it, but secretly continues to fantasize about polygamy.

You can already guess what’s missing from Freud’s theory: the spirit, of course!

The spirit is not the Superego and does not operate according to external social or religious values—like religions, for example. Instead, it is naturally guided by internal values derived from the eternal “Light of Truth.”

Moreover, if the spirit were dominant, people wouldn’t experience the inner conflicts that Freud based his entire theory on—they would instead experience perfect inner harmony!

But Freud obviously could not account for the spirit because he lacked spiritual consciousness and based his entire psychoanalytic theory about man’s inner world—on sexuality, which is inevitably tied only to the physical body.

Therefore, Freud was right that our bodily instincts and emotions are not monogamous, but he was gravely mistaken in thinking that monogamous marriage is a necessary compromise.

(By the way, this applies equally to Charles Darwin’s (1809–1882) theory of evolution, which is valid on a material-earthly level: humans and apes did evolve from a common ancestor. However, Darwin, too, failed to account for the spirit’s entry into the animal body—an animal that had reached the peak of its physical evolution—which actually marked the true birth of the human being. Why? Because, like Freud and many others, he looked at the world and tried to explain it solely through an earthly-material consciousness.)

But let’s return to our topic: the attack on monogamy. Freud’s theory did not remain static; it developed in other directions that no longer viewed marriage as a necessary evil but instead completely dismantled the institution of marriage! Let’s take, for example, Osho (1931–1990), a known Indian “spiritual” teacher. His solution to monogamous marriage was to eliminate it altogether! Osho viewed marriage as an outdated institution built on ownership, jealousy, and control, where men and women become each other’s property—destroying their freedom and authenticity.

This critique is valid for many married couples, but marriage itself is not the problem; rather, it is what people have made of it in the absence of spiritual consciousness!

Therefore, instead of a lifelong commitment, Osho advocated for open relationships that develop naturally. That is, when love ends, people should be free to leave without guilt or social pressure. He supported absolute sexual freedom and, like Freud, claimed monogamy is unnatural and repressive—but unlike Freud, he encouraged sexual relationships with multiple partners as part of their “spiritual development.”

However, Osho’s approach is far more dangerous to the human spirit than Freud’s!

This is because Osho not only completely broke down the institution of marriage—while Freud still viewed it as a necessary evil—but he also positioned himself as a “spiritual teacher” promoting “spiritual development for the new human being” through polyamory. In reality, he was very far from understanding what spirit truly is!

Moreover, the gap between Osho’s theory of polyamory and the actual experience of his followers in the Pune commune was vast! Besides claims that “free sexuality” was used as a control mechanism, the lack of clear boundaries in relationships caused internal confusion among his followers, impairing their ability to develop healthy relationships.

Particularly, many allegations claimed Osho’s promotion of sexual freedom especially harmed women. These claims are not surprising at all.

However, to understand why women are often more prone to being hurt by so-called “open and free relationships,” we must first understand what happens when sexuality is disconnected from spirituality.

Actually, when engagement in sexual intimacy takes place without a spiritual bond between the partners, but solely for physical gratification, what happens is similar to what occurs under hypnosis or while using psychedelic substances. Though the sexual experience is not a spiritual one—and sex certainly does not lead to God, contrary to what various false teachers from the Esoteric Dome claim—at its peak, it is the most refined experience the physical body can have.

At this intimate moment, the spirit is less strongly connected to the body and is therefore exposed to external influences. During such moments, the participating partners are exposed to attack and manipulation by dark souls or entities that usually remain close to Earth.

Thus, anyone who is lured into engaging in loveless sex may notice the effects on him of a temporary takeover by the Darkness, experiencing emptiness, confusion, depression, anger, and even behavior that feels completely alien to his nature.

The fact that Freud and Osho essentially banished the spirit from romantic relationships is closely connected to their relationship with God.

Freud was a self-declared atheist, probably because—like many others—he couldn’t separate the distorted conflation between organized religions and God itself.

Osho, meanwhile—who also vehemently rejected the idea of God as a personal, paternal, and judgmental entity as depicted in religions—proposed Divinity as an inner reality. That is, “Divinity” as a state of consciousness, an inner experience of transcendence and oneness. In his view, anyone could reach this state through meditation and inner contemplation.

But here too, Osho’s approach is far more dangerous and misleading than Freud’s, because it not only mistakes instincts and emotions for spirit, but actually turns humans into god!

(This mirrors the claims of many New Age teachers who insist that the Messiah isn’t a specific person, but simply a consciousness: “Messianic consciousness” that anyone can attain.)

Osho’s concept of polyamory has very ancient roots, as Osho is, in fact, a reincarnation of a Baal priest from ancient times! He simply regurgitates—using modern language—the sexual ideology of Baal, who is none other than one of Lucifer’s most powerful servants (Baal was a primordial being who joined Lucifer in his descent to Earth).

As Lucifer’s servant, Baal requires energy—power! And he obtains this through rituals of sexual debauchery. Sexual temptation thus serves as a tool, converting people to his worship, while distorted desire becomes a means of control and creates dependency.

In Osho’s time—and sadly, with increasing intensity in our time—only the form of sexual debauchery has changed, not its essence: polyamory, partner-swapping, nudism, orgies, and so forth—all transfer tremendous power to the Darkness because of the ecstasy they produce.

These perversions create severe addiction, even to the point of damaging the human soul, because the Darkness doesn’t play around and never releases any of its slaves, through whom it can extract ever more power.

(Incidentally, pornography is the continuation of Baal worship, just in digital form—which is why all porn sites, viewed by billions of people worldwide, may be free… but at the steep price of selling one’s soul!)

The worship of Baal has deep, ancient roots throughout history (beginning in the early Canaanite period, 3000–2000 BCE). However, we know it especially from biblical times (1200–586 BCE) as a cult that all the prophets opposed, since it was the primary rival worship to the worship of God.

The most famous story is the battle of the prophet Elijah (1 Kings 18) against the worship of Baal and Asherah. Elijah challenged 450 prophets of Baal to a test on Mount Carmel—each side would prepare a sacrifice, but only the true God would send fire to consume it. The prophets of Baal called on their god from morning until noon, dancing around the altar and cutting themselves with swords and spears, as was their custom. But there was no response. When Elijah called upon the Lord, fire fell and consumed the sacrifice. When the people saw this, they cried, “The Lord—he is God!”

This confrontation represented the battle between polytheism and monotheism, where Baal and Asherah embodied polytheism while Elijah stood for monotheism.

Monotheism is the belief in a single God (the word comes from the Greek monos = one and theos = god). In contrast, polytheism is the belief in many gods (poly = many and theos = god).

Now, you’re probably asking yourselves: how does all this connect to today’s lecture topic—joyful monogamous marriage?

Here’s the fascinating answer, found in the very words themselves: Monotheism champions monogamy, while polytheism champions polyamory!

Therefore, the fact that Freud and Osho didn’t believe in God is directly connected to their polygamous perspective!

Mono = the One, belongs to the Light!

There is One God!

There is One Truth!

There is One Woman (or One Man)!

There is One Prophet: the one true prophet of each generation!

 

In contrast, the Darkness operates through poly = the many.

 

There are always many idols and goddesses!

 

Many “truths”! (Remember the slogans: “Everyone has his own truth” and “Live your truth”? This isn’t a postmodern invention, but simply an updated version of the ancient polytheistic worldview.)

 

Many women! (The proof that idolatry goes hand in hand with polygamy is clear if we examine what happened during the biblical time of King Solomon, who married many foreign women, built places of worship and altars for their various gods, and even followed after these idols. This worship inevitably influenced the people and is considered one of the causes for King Solomon’s kingdom being torn away from the House of David and split into two kingdoms.)

 

False prophets always appear in multitudes! (450 prophets of Baal and 400 prophets of Asherah versus one prophet: Elijah.)

Therefore, in the Days of the Final Judgement, all these distortions will be corrected, and all of humanity will be forced to recognize and bow down before the One God, from whom unity alone can flow:

“On that day the Lord will be One, and His name One.” (Zechariah 14:9)

The rising divorce rates are yet another sign of the collapse of the old world, where everything that is wrong must disintegrate to make way for building something new and right according to God’s eternal Laws of Creation.

Therefore, while we typically observe the external structures of the matrix and pray for their collapse, we must also understand that the internal matrix within us is destined to collapse as well—and if we’re not prepared for this, it will be extremely painful.

The inner matrix is a consciousness prison created by two wrong material consciousnesses: the intellectual consciousness and the emotional consciousness.

These have suppressed our spiritual consciousness, which was meant to be our only true consciousness, while the intellect and emotions were simply supposed to be its instruments of execution—tools and nothing more.

I mention this in all my lectures and explain it in detail in the LET MY SPIRIT GO! course, because this is the true revolution that the new era demands of us: leadership of the spirit, as it was meant to be in the original Plan of Creation, before the fall to the temptation of the  serpent—Lucifer.

Therefore, anyone who doesn’t understand that this is humanity’s greatest problem will never be able to experience a happy monogamy, because as we said at the very beginning of this lecture: only the spirit is monogamous.

Yet, the longing to “find the one and only” is the yearning of human spirits whose inner spark has not yet been fully extinguished.
Therefore, if your spirit still yearns for this—despite all that you see around you—then you still believe in something called everlasting love, unconditional loyalty and purity.

Your intuition has already told you that even weddings—as they are celebrated today around the world—are distorted and misguided:

  • Deafening music
  • A bride, on her wedding day, half-naked (if not completely naked…)
  • Excessive amounts of food that even the greatest gluttony couldn’t handle
  • Marijuana joints being passed around, because “otherwise you can’t celebrate”
  • A hefty check that guests are expected to bring to cover the costs of this whole superficial show-off event

This whole jarring event takes place in order to hide just one thing:
The absence of true love between the couple, a love that by nature is sacred and intimate.
For the true, intimate marriage covenant is like the Holy of Holies—the innermost sanctuary of the ancient Temple—hidden from all prying eyes, which only the high priest was permitted to enter.

Whereas promiscuity is, by its very nature, exposed to all, like the Golden Calf, and leads inevitably to the loss of innocence and the uprooting of grace and beauty.

Thus, only the Darkness could have taken the term “sacred sexuality”—which by definition means concealing and protecting what is holy—and perverted it into exactly its opposite: public display and profanation.

This is how we ended up with various “tantra workshops,” which encourage men and women to shed all shame in the name of “progress and openness,” when in fact these are nothing but modern-day workshops of Sodom and Gomorrah under Lucifer’s auspices!

But fortunately for humanity, there are still a few who have not lost their pure intuition, and such weddings and workshops provoke in them deep revulsion.
For a long time, they saw themselves as “not normal”—but as the Light of Truth now shines upon humanity, these “abnormal” ones will discover they are actually normal, while the “normal ones” of the matrix are, in fact, the real “abnormal ones.”

They will discover that their intuition was correct—and the Truth will serve to strengthen them!
This will be the happiest period of their lives, and they will also discover that the concept of a “match made in heaven” does not exist only in fairy tales, but also in the lives of those who are blessed with marriages that are founded on a spiritual connection.

To illuminate the original meaning of the term “a match made in heaven,” I want to share with you part of Lesson 9 from the LET MY SPIRIT GO! course:

The expression “a match made in heaven” suggests that each person is born with certain inherent qualities that can only develop harmoniously through a partnership with someone who possesses complementary—not identical—traits.

However, this doesn’t mean that a person can only have a harmonious marriage with one and only one person in the entire world. Usually, there are several people with the complementary traits needed for such growth (so there’s no need to wander the world for decades in search of “the one and only”). Once a person lives in an authentic connection with his own spirit, he begins to resonate at a specific energetic frequency—and according to the Law of Attraction between Similar Species—he will attract (and be attracted to) a partner who complements him.

When this happens, both people immediately sense that something very special is taking place.

This kind of love involves a magnetic connection between two spirits from the very first moment, and goes far beyond a romantic love story.

The love shared by a “match made in heaven” couple has a quality that is not of this world!

People who find such true love often share a deep harmony that includes telepathic communication and endless conversations. They complement each other perfectly, moving together toward spiritual ascent and joint fulfillment while experiencing profound intimacy.

Often, this connection is the continuation of a relationship from a previous lifetime.

The bond is so special that both partners may feel it’s too good to be true—and fear waking up one day to find it was all just a dream… Because most people are disconnected from their spirit, such a spiritual connection is very rare. But when it happens, no other relationship can compare.

When a man and a woman taste the essence of this kind of true love, they gain knowledge of love that most people will never possess.

They experience what the marriage covenant truly means according to the original Plan of Creation—and they are able to vow before God:

“Together with you, upward to the Light!”

This is beautifully reflected in the Hebrew language, where the word “nissuin” (marriage) literally means: to be lifted up, to rise above!

There is a short yet profound saying in the Talmud—the ancient Jewish commentary on biblical law—that reveals this secret:

“Man and woman: if they merit it—Divine Presence dwells between them; if they do not merit—fire consumes them.” (Talmud, Tractate Sotah 17a)

Let’s delve deeper into its meaning:

In Hebrew, the words for man (ish) and woman (isha) share two common letters: aleph (א) and shin (ש), which together form the word esh (אש)—meaning fire, symbolizing anger or conflict.

The two differing letters are yud (י) from ish and hei (ה) from isha, which together form Yah (יה)—the first two letters of God’s name.

In Hebrew, the word “to merit” doesn’t just mean winning as in ‘winning the lottery,’ but also means ‘to acquire’—that is, to achieve something through effort and diligence.

Therefore, if the couple merited purifying the ego (ego consists of the intellect and the emotions) and living by the spiritual consciousness, then “Divine Presence dwells between them”—which means God’s blessing rests upon them.

But if they did not merit, meaning they continue to operate from emotions and intellect—that is, from the ego—then God’s blessing cannot rest upon them, and all that will remain between the couple is fire, which will consume them in endless quarrels and arguments.

Therefore:

Anyone who wants an eternally joyful marriage—a marriage of constant growth, where the love for each other doesn’t fade with every passing day but grows stronger with the years—must understand that such marriage happens only when each partner puts God before everything else in their life!

That is, in contrast to romantic infatuation, where one’s partner becomes an idol that receives the first place in our lives—in love flowing from the spirit, each of them must live and experience the First Commandment of the Ten Commandments:

“I am the Lord your God… You shall have no other gods before Me.” (Exodus 20:2-3)

But how does this guidance actually lead to eternal and heavenly love that everyone dreams of, but only very few get to experience?

Here is the step-by-step breakdown of the explanation of the secret:

  1. Those who place God above all else in their life
  2. Also align themselves—by their own free will—with God’s Will, which is the Laws of Creation
  3. Therefore, they have made God’s Will their own will
  4. Meaning: they have no personal will whatsoever and are therefore completely selfless!
  5. When both partners are selfless—meaning without ego—they simply have nothing to fight about and naturally serve one another!

In summary: The moment we have our own “self” will, we inevitably have a selfish ego. And there’s no way to prevent endless conflicts when two selfish egos clash, each wanting different things.

In contrast, when both partners live naturally according to the Laws of Creation and both aspire toward the same destination—toward the Light!—then they simply cannot help but live in harmony, joy, and mutual service, as day by day their spiritual consciousness ascends to another level, drawing closer to God.

Only when we burn out the ego can we truly know what love is—not only between romantic partners, but in general.

 

And this, truly, is the greatest and most important question we must ask ourselves in the new era:

Will we choose to continue feeding the transient ego (the emotions and the intellect), or will we burn it out so that the eternal spirit can be set free?

 

As Goethe wrote in his poem “Blessed Longing”:

“And as long as you do not have this: dying and becoming!

you are but a gloomy guest upon the dark earth.”

 

Therefore, when a person’s spirit spark is ignited and power is thereby transferred to the spirit, it must use these moments of grace to overcome the intellect and emotions and set out on the journey! The journey toward true love, which we all came here—to Planet Earth—to find and actually… to become!